When we resent something, all we see is the negative and we find it very, very difficult to let it go.
In order to do this, you need to make a choice. We can all choose to not stay stuck on something, we can choose to not go over and over it. It is a choice to accept that something may be out of our control and we can decide to look the other way.
So how do we do this? The trick is to ‘let go’ mentally and physically.
In High Performance Mindfulness (HPM) we learn about the power of an ‘acceptance statement’ to help us let go of something mentally. The acceptance statement acknowledges the struggle … and accepts it, which serves to calm the mind and shift our focus onto something more helpful and productive.
Something like…
“My feelings have been hurt so it’s only natural that I feel like this… BUT I’m not taking that on”.
It’s important to make the choice to let it go. Understand that something someone has said or done is their judgement and their actions, and let it go.
We then have to ‘physically’ let it go and the most powerful way to do this is to use your breath and move! In HPM we say ‘Motion Changes Emotion’. When we are fighting something, when we are resisting something, we are in a state of fight or flight, which can make us very hunched, very closed, very small. Once we shift our posture through movement and breathing, that physical shift sends a message to our mind that there is no danger here. You have let it go and it’s not a big issue.
Shifting your focus and your physical body in these moments is a really powerful way to help stop that constant struggle, that constant fight.
Holding onto things and continually going back over them is what limits you from performing at your best.
Once you change that mindset and let go of what’s holding you back, that is when you can change your life.
Let it go.